A Growth Mindset

Mindset is the backbone of developing adversity quotient (AQ) and building resilience. In the face of difficulties, if we embrace the spirit of no pain no gain and see challenges as opportunities, we would be able to cope with obstacles instead of feeling defeated. This state of mind is often referred to as a growth mindset.

People with a growth mindset have a can-do attitude. They believe that anything is possible once they put their mind to it. There is no fear of failures and change is welcomed as a way of life. Having a growth mindset allows people to see criticism as a chance to improve. They get inspired by the success of others and have positive self-talk which faciliates continuous learning, growing, and thriving.

Self-talk is central to developing and maintaining a growth mindset. Believe it or not, we all have a voice inside our head, and it talks to us quite frequently. This voice greatly influences our perceptions, beliefs, values, decisions, and actions. The language or words used in our internal dialogue also affect our interpretations, emotions, and reactions. We must pay attention to the significant impact of self-talk on our mindset.

One way to develop positive self-talk is to think and speak in the context of “yet”. This word is powerful in shifting negative remarks to positive ones such as from “I can’t”, to “I can’t yet”. “Yet” has an implication that things take time to build, or skills take effort to improve. When the concept of yet is applied in our internal conversation, we are also activating a growth mindset and building resilience to manage obstacles and failures optimistically.

In addition, we can use praising to celebrate improvement on effort, perseverance, or tactics instead of outcome, talents, or intelligence. By doing this we are rewarding ourselves for taking up the challenge, stepping out of the comfort zone and progressing on the learning curve even when things don’t turn out the way we expect it. We want to focus on the process not the result because that would give us confidence and motivation to keep striving.

Allowing time for self-reflection is beneficial to learning from our failures. As we analyze what goes wrong, we could come up with solutions from a new perspective. This process invites positive thinking and improves our problem-solving skills. However, be mindful not to dwell on the past while reflecting on the experiences. The purpose of looking back is to identify valuable learnings from the mistakes. A professional coach would come in handy to facilitate a thought-provoking journey of reflection. Come talk to us at HIbodhi only if you want the best for yourself.

心態是發展逆境商數（AQ）和增強復原力的支柱。 面對逆境，如果我們懷著一分耕耘一分收獲的精神，把挑戰視為機遇，我們就能克服困難，而不是感到失敗。 這種心態通常被稱為成長心態 (growth mindset)。

具有成長心態的人有一種「我能做到」的態度。 他們相信，只要下定決心，一切都有可能。 他們不懼怕失敗，歡迎改變及將其成為一種生活模式。 擁有成長心態的人，將批評視為改進的機會。 他們從別人的成功中受到啟發，以積極的自我對話，去推動持續學習、成長和繁榮的機遇。

自我對話對於發展和維持成長心態至關重要。 不管你相信與否，我們的腦海裡都有一把聲音，而且它經常與我們談話。 這種聲音深遠地影響著我們的想法、信念、價值觀、決定和行動。 我們內在對話中使用的語言或字詞也會影響我們的理解、情緒和反應。 因此必須重視自我對話對我們心態的巨大影響。

發展積極的自我談話的方法之一是利用「還沒」的字詞背景去思考和表達。 這個詞可以有效地將負面內容轉化為正面內容，例如將「我不能」改變成「我還沒能」。 「還沒」的含義是指事情需要時間來建立，或者技能需要努力來提升。 當「還沒」的概念應用於內在對話時，我們不但在激活成長心態，同時也在強化抗逆力，讓自己能樂觀地處理障礙和失敗。

此外，我們可以利用讚美來慶祝努力、毅力或策略方面的進步。不選擇獎勵成果、才能或智力，是為了另我們關注自己接受挑戰、走出舒適圈並在學習曲線上取得進展的重要性。即使事情的發展並沒有到達預期計劃之內，我們希望專注於過程而不是結果，因為這會帶給我們繼續奮鬥的信心和動力。

安排時間進行自我反思對失敗中的學習會有好處。 當分析問題所在時，我們可以從新的角度找出解決方案。 這個過程會引發正面的思考並提高解決問題的能力。 但在反思經驗時，不適合沉迷於過去。 回顧的目的是從錯誤中找出有價值的教訓。 如有專業教練的協助，促進反思之旅便來得輕鬆多了。 如果您想為自己爭取最好的，請來 HIbodhi 與我們交談。